Re: perceiving conflict

[patandpaula <patandpaulas@xxxxxxxxx>]

tom, i think i understand what you are saying,  i had a particular sales rep
who worked for me and the customers kept calling in saying he intimidated
them and they were afraid of him.  when i told him about it, he was shocked.
I told him that while I knew he was a gentle and sweet person, that
sometimes his mannerisms were perceived as "cold"   So, even though he wasnt
the way they perceived him, they had a right to their perception of the
truth,because that is all they knew.   And if he wanted to change their
perception, it was up to him to smile, talk softer, etc.   is that kindof
what you mean?      paula  (as the other lady said im not very eloquent and
sure not as smart as some on this site, so i apologize in advance)
From: "tom mccreary" <paramacs@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <PARKINSN@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Saturday, April 20, 2002 8:41 AM
Subject: Re: perceiving conflict


> Perception is what thte people around the world react to.  Truth which
> should be our just balance isn't aways available or even welcomed when it
> is.  Ask a republicann and a demoacrat to defeinee the other one.  Would
you
> be presented with truthful descripitions? Or ask a Chevy owner and a FOrd
> owner who makes tthe better trck.Or an accomplished ballroom dancer  and a
> master chess player whose activity is more gruelling. It seems what we
ahve
> here is a differing of opinion on the moral, social, political, religious,
> etc. worth of the topci and the tone of presentation of the supporters of
> each side of the various topics.
> old proverb, " i would rather live withi a constant dripping of water, or
> live on th roof wiith the goat than live in ths house with a contentious
or
> annoying person"
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "janet paterson" <janet313@xxxxxxxxxxx>
> To: <PARKINSN@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
> Sent: Thursday, April 18, 2002 8:57 AM
> Subject: perceiving conflict
>
>
> > hi all
> >
> > if there are no distinctly condscending words
> > and no condescension intended or even considered by the sender
> > and a message is seen by some recipients as condescending
> > could it be that the condescension
> > is in the eye of the recipient
> > and not the sender?
> >
> > how then can the sender correct the misunderstanding?
> >
> > perceptions are our choice
> >
> > is our will to resolve a conflict
> > or is it to advance one?
> >
> > janet
> >
> >
> >
> > janet paterson: an akinetic rigid subtype, albeit perky, parky
> > pd: 55/41/37 cd: 55/44/43 tel: 613 256 8340 email: janet313@xxxxxxxxxxx
> > smail: 375 Country Street, Almonte, Ontario, Canada, K0A 1A0
> > a new voice: 
> >
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