Re: family support

[Peter Flintermann <PCFLINTE@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>]

For Debra--No. you didn't go on toolong, and I can't see that you have
much to be guilty about! You could ask about a caregiver's support group for
you. It's hard to be patient with people who are so overwhelmed by their
own bad situation that they can't understand your problems. Can you
and your husband set some reasonable limits with her, at a time when there's
not a crisis? Maybe a schedule for shopping,etc. that she can agree to and
tape to the fridge?  Think of how you have to set limits with children,even
when they resist--it can be the MOST LOVING thing to do--and in this case
it may be the only way to preserve your loving relationship. Folks who
become dependent on others can be come very demanding,out of the fear and
anxiety they feel from losing control of their lives, and fail to show
how much they really appreciate your help.  Stay connected here--
Camilla Flintermann (C) Peter (76-6)